Assalamualaikum everyone !

Okay in this entry I'm gonna talk about RELATIONSHIPS. Yes. Sounds interesting right. I hope those youngsters out there read this. Okay actually I often read motivational books on relationships and marriages. It gives me a better perspective of what to expect in the future. And last year I read 'Aku Terima Nikahnya' and it's a very good book for people that looks forward in relationships.

From that book, I discover a psychological fact that I think every girl and boy thinking of involving in a relationship should know. The book says psychological studies have proven that a man and a woman will lose interest in each other averagely in 4 years time. They'll start getting boring and they give less attention to their partner. It's because they're getting to feel weary and tired of the same thing over and over again. At this point, the partner will start to give excuses and the relationship slowly dies. Just like that. So if you don't have any plans to tie the knot in the near future don't even think about getting in a relationship ! I'm not saying those who have known each other for quite some time should break up or what but it's proven babe. Maybe it won't apply for everybody but most of them YES.

This is why Islam encourage us to quickly tie the knot if you've found somebody that you think is good enough to guide you to Jannah, able to provide you with whatever needed in a marriage. Why procrastinate something good right ?

When we get into marriage, the bond of the marriage itself will hold these partners together. Well usually during early period of the marriage the couples will go through lots and lots of happy time. Honeymoon phase lah kata kannn hahaha. Then when it comes to the second or third year of marriage everything will began to fall apart. This is usually the roughest and toughest times in all marriages. Everything have their ups and downs, well so does marriages. During this phase, the couples starting to get to know their partner's dark side. Their true colour. But for the sake of the bond that they have tied, they'll fight hard to keep their relationship strong. It gets harder if there's a baby involve. The husband will feel ignored, jealous, and envy of the attention his wife gives the baby than the attention given to him. You might laugh reading this because you've not yet experience it. Well neither do I but based on what I've been reading it's kinda true. A partner will always craves attention no matter in what situation. You're lucky if you have an understanding one !

Then after 5 to 6 years the marriage will become stable and firm. Both the husband and wife have finally adapt to the marriage life they choose. This is the time they can regain their love and put those sparks of love back on flame ! haha I feel awkward writing all these but I thought it's something that I wanna share with you guys. I'm sorry for any misunderstanding regarding this post. It's just a little information from me. This is what I got from reading and I'd be happy if you guys try to start reading any inspirational and useful books. It doesn't have to involve marriage of course, anything is fine. When you read a lot you'll realise there's still a lot more to learn. You can start with blogs !

Thank you for reading ! Really appreciate it :D