Is it possible to love two people at the same time? If you ask me this question two or three years back, I'd say no. How can you possibly love two people at the same time? I used to think that love is something so sacred and you can't just love people randomly. Love for me, was something I cannot give so easily. There is no easy access no, no secret formula but once I love, I love with everything I have, every drop of blood, every vein and bones, every breath of my lungs, I love them with utmost passion. Maybe, that's why I thought loving two people at the same time seems rather ridiculous. My insides burn from loving one person, how can you survive two? That's suicide, or so I thought.
But then as I grow, I learn that loving someone doesn't always have to be like that. It doesn't have to be fireworks and explosions. You don't have to be burnt aflame, engulfing everything along the way. Sometimes, it can be soft, like how the breeze kisses your cheeks by the beach as the sun sets. Like the soft pads of his thumb caressing your palm. Love doesn't always sets butterflies in your stomach because it could also be the sweet sweet pain as your muscles twist, head thrown back laughing at some silly joke. Love could be many things.
So ask me that question again, is it possible to love two people at the same time? Yes, I would answer yes. You can never love different people the same way. Maybe not everyone agrees with me on this but I believe, each and every one of us loves differently and are loved differently. So loving two people at the same time? Why not. But no, I'm not saying you can have two girlfriends or cheat on your wife ffs. I'm saying that do not limit yourself of love and compassion. In relationships, love alone is not gonna work. You have to want to make it work, you have to put in efforts and determination. Your love is what drives you to accomplish all these for a better relationship/marriage. Relationship is a social exchange, you weigh the cost and benefit and love is what makes you stay even though at times, the cost outweighs. Apparently, love makes people take ridiculous risks and make stupid decisions. You can find yourself in love with 10 different people at the same time, but there will always be that one person who'd tell you to jump only to have you replying how high.
And when someone says you can never love anyone as much as you love them, don't be surprised. Because you can't. You can never love two people the same way. The reason you love them aren't the same. They aren't the same. So what makes you think you can love him like you love her? Your memories of them aren't the same. Just because you'll never love the same way doesn't mean that you won't love better.
But then as I grow, I learn that loving someone doesn't always have to be like that. It doesn't have to be fireworks and explosions. You don't have to be burnt aflame, engulfing everything along the way. Sometimes, it can be soft, like how the breeze kisses your cheeks by the beach as the sun sets. Like the soft pads of his thumb caressing your palm. Love doesn't always sets butterflies in your stomach because it could also be the sweet sweet pain as your muscles twist, head thrown back laughing at some silly joke. Love could be many things.
So ask me that question again, is it possible to love two people at the same time? Yes, I would answer yes. You can never love different people the same way. Maybe not everyone agrees with me on this but I believe, each and every one of us loves differently and are loved differently. So loving two people at the same time? Why not. But no, I'm not saying you can have two girlfriends or cheat on your wife ffs. I'm saying that do not limit yourself of love and compassion. In relationships, love alone is not gonna work. You have to want to make it work, you have to put in efforts and determination. Your love is what drives you to accomplish all these for a better relationship/marriage. Relationship is a social exchange, you weigh the cost and benefit and love is what makes you stay even though at times, the cost outweighs. Apparently, love makes people take ridiculous risks and make stupid decisions. You can find yourself in love with 10 different people at the same time, but there will always be that one person who'd tell you to jump only to have you replying how high.
And when someone says you can never love anyone as much as you love them, don't be surprised. Because you can't. You can never love two people the same way. The reason you love them aren't the same. They aren't the same. So what makes you think you can love him like you love her? Your memories of them aren't the same. Just because you'll never love the same way doesn't mean that you won't love better.
